Tuesday, March 11, 2014

Technology and Kids

Recently the Huffington Post published an article, 10 Reasons Why Handheld Devices Should Be Banned For Children Under the Age of 12. Although the article gives some great research, most of the article is over-generalized and the points I do actually agree with seem like common sense.

The article, as well as the American Academy of Pediatrics, recommends no technology at all until 2 years old. As is everything with parenting, I find recommendations such as this bullshit because each child is different. I have a two-year-old who is amazing with technology. She was introduced to Baby Einstein videos at 6 months old, started playing iPad games at a year, and watches tv a couple times a week. Guess what? By the time she was 14 months she consistently said 26 words. She is not even 2 1/2 years old and knows all of her basic colors, can count to 20, recognizes most upper and lower case letters, knows some letter sounds, is working on basic sight words, and knows all of her basic shapes. Not only that, she is an extremely social child, she LOVES books, reading, and being read to, she has always been able to listen and follow multiple-step directions, and has amazing verbal, fine motor, and gross motor skills for her age. When she watches tv shows like Team Umizoomi and Super Why, she is able to follow along and interact with the show. Her amazing memory allows her to memorize lines from books, tv shows, and games and her creative ability allows her to recreate these scenes later in the day using her dolls and other toys. Withholding technology from her, in my opinion, would have put her at a disadvantage. It is something she is interested in, something she is good at, and therefore something she needs exposure to. In my opinion, she uses more critical thinking skills in learning how to open and navigate the iPad and iPad apps individually than just simply picking up the toys available in her room. She does wonderfully with a balance of technology and creative play. In no way do I think access to technology hindered her imagination. In fact, I think it created a groundwork to build her creative play off of. She is able to use what she has seen in tv and movies to make-believe and play independently. That being said, every night we have dinner as a family at the dinner table with no technology, she does NOT get any technology in her room or at night at all, and we limit access to technology daily in order to create that balance.

My soon-to-be one year old is a completely different story. It is hard to really tell at this point, but so far he has zero interest in anything technology. So, his exposure to technology is minimal. I see no point in exposing him to something he has no interest in at the time being. He would much rather play with toys than watch tv. He looks at the iPad as a cool thing his sister uses sometimes- but when providing him with a baby app, he throws it (like he throws everything these days....). He will probably not be ready for technology until at least 2 years old. Like I said... all children are different.

Digital Dementia? Please. My husband started using computers daily at 8 years old. He started learning code at 9. His dad gave him a computer and a book on code and off he went. By the time he graduated high school, he was fluent in 7 different computer languages. Now, he is 28 and is one of the only people in the country who can do what he does. He spent his entire childhood on a computer. He does not have social issues, memory issues, or any other issues attributed to the awfulness that is technology. Instead he has a unique skill-set that has companies BEG him for jobs. Think about anyone you know that was into computers and video games as a child. Chances are they have a higher paying job than you.

Children NEED to be exposed to technology. At what age, depends on the child. If you do not provide access to technology, you are failing your child. Children should be somewhat fluent on a computer before they reach kindergarten. Children who do not have a fundamental understanding of how a computer works will not make it in this technology-based world. So rather than LIMITING technology, we should instead be promoting using technology to their advantage.

Provide children with apps that promote coding skills. This article has examples of apps that give children programming skills. "Even if a student never intends to pursue programming as a career, learning to code will still foster problem-solving skills, spark creativity and enhance logical thinking." My husband and I intend for both of our children to learn the basics of computer programming. Raegan is only 2 and already plays the game Kodable. It is coding in the most fundamental form- learning to think like a programmer.

Play games and video games that are educational and promote strategy and teamwork. There is nothing wrong with family game night on a digital device. Children are still challenged, learn about competition, and are spending time with family. They learn to take turns and play fair. They learn about teamwork, strategies, and friendship.

Parents should make sure children make the most of technology available. Create a balance and make sure digital technology does not replace conventional learning. Technology should be used to ENHANCE learning, therefore creating more opportunities for children as they grow up in a technical world. By the time our children are adults, they will use technology for EVERYTHING.

In summary, be smart and use common sense when introducing technology to children. Don't throw them in front of a tv all day. Don't allow a tween access to social media. Don't allow your child to play their DS or iPhone throughout dinner. Do promote learning and imaginative play outside of technology. Do allow your child access to apps and games that promote strategic thinking. Do provide your child with the tools necessary to keep up with changing technology. You know your children- do what is best for them.



Friday, February 28, 2014

Worst Parts of Parenting

There are so many great things about being a parent. It is amazing how a little person so small and needy can become your complete world overnight. It is truly hard to put into words the wonderful aspects of parenthood.

That being said... I can easily describe the worst parts- many of which people do not prepare you for.

Here is my personal list of the worst parts of parenting:


1. Cutting baby fingernails. I hate it. Like really hate it. When they are a newborn they tell you to file the nails down... really?? I tried that- the file did absolutely nothing. The kid still had sharp, pointy claws that cut their face and more importantly, my boob. It seriously felt like my cat was clawing my boobs during feedings. Not cool. Not only that, but newborn finger nails are TINY. And extremely thin. Trying to get the nail clipper in between the nail and fingertip without cutting the finger off always gives me an anxiety attack. Which is why my boobs were always clawed.... As if cutting newborn fingernails was tough.... once the baby becomes somewhat mobile... game over. You now have to get the baby to sit still enough in your lap to cut 10 fingers... I mean fingernails... while they are squirming around and trying to get away... and probably crying. So. Much. Fun.

2. Changing squirmy baby's diaper.  Once a baby is mobile, you have to wrestle them squirming around like crazy while changing poopy diapers. At times I have had to hold my son by his legs, holding them in the air as his body bends upside down into positions I didn't think were possible. Other times, diaper changes involve having to pin him to the floor or changing table as his body tries to maneuver side-ways and upside down. You would think they would be happy to have the poop cleaned... but no- being independent and mobile is much more important. Needless to say, no matter how much effort I put into keeping them from getting shit (literally) everywhere, it always ends up getting all over the baby's and my clothes as well as the changing table. Baby for the win.


3. Getting into car seat. I have written about this before. Kids are born with the ability to resist car seats. Even little tiny newborns who can hardly move find a way to manipulate themselves into a position making it impossible to strap them in. Once they are older, getting into the car takes a good twenty minutes and about every ounce of patience you have. Bending themselves backwards, screaming, flailing arms... you need 6 arms in order to secure the straps correctly. Oh, and not to mention the fact that your toddler will run from you seat hopping because she is a big girl and doesn't need a car seat.

4. Teething. I do not think I can say enough about how much I despise teething. It makes my kids cranky. It makes them not sleep. It makes them scream. It makes them not eat. It lasts FOREVER. When Rory's final tooth comes in, I am going to throw a huge party!

5. Middle of the night wakings after sleep training. I believe in sleep training. Luckily I have two amazing sleepers. They both responded awesome to sleep training. But that makes it that much worse when there are interruptions to their wonderful sleep habits. Once you are used to getting some sleep- going back to multiple night wakings is awful. And you would think it only happens every couple months... WRONG! Sleep regressions are no joke. They happen around 4 months, 9 months, one year, 18 months.... And they last for WEEKS. Add that to the nighttime wakings due to teething, growth spurts, and whenever they get sick... you should basically just expect to be awake multiple times a night for the rest of your life.

6. Pooping in the bath tub. This is no joke. And it does happen. And it sucks. Especially if the tub is full of toys when it happens. Or when there are two kids in the tub. So gross.



Tuesday, February 25, 2014

Raegan's Room

Life has been crazy the last couple months. I was coaching a high school swim team during the afternoons, so the hubby was on dinner and bed duty almost every night. On top of that- he was going to work extra early so he could leave in time for me to go to coaching. We have also had a couple weeks of colds and ear infections and UTI's..... Needless to say, we have all been exhausted. 

Now that life seems to be returning to normal, I can get back to work on my projects- this blog included!! 


I have been having fun finding cute, cheap projects for the kids' rooms and the playroom. 

Here is a tour of Raegan's big girl room!

This stuffed animal holder is my most recent project. They are planters from Lowes. All I did was hang them up on the wall and now she has a place to put her baby dolls and stuffed animals rather than piling them in a basket. 
Raegan moved to a "big girl bed" when she was about 20 months old. She used to have a railing on the bed but the hubby broke it when she REALLLLLLY wanted him to lay with her. She never really needed it anyway because the bed is so low to the ground to begin with. 

Also shown is my other project- IKEA spice rack bookshelves! All I did was paint them and put them on the wall. Both Raegan and Rory are easily able to access their books. Rory especially loves putting the books back onto the shelf.... 

The rest of the pics are just other pics of her room.